Do Not Think Introverts Can Not Do Well At Small Talk

Written by Christopher Lewis. Posted in Blog

Communication for introvertsIntroverts are often labeled as individuals with poor communication skills. They are also thought of as socially awkward or bad conversationalists.

All of these assumptions are false.

Introverts are not inherently bad communicators or socially awkward.

Introversion refers to a proclivity for receiving energy from one's own mental space, rather than the presence or emotions of others. However, this does not necessarily mean that introverts do not gain something or energy from others. It simply means that this is the predominate tendency. Introverts are often excellent communicators.

Furthermore, communication is not necessarily something that is mastered in its frequency or volume, but rather in its quality.

In fact, many introverts may be excellent with communicative styles.

Small talk, for many introverts, is a positive experience, even in cases in which they may be shy or reserved. Introversion often allows people to be more intuitive or observant of others' interests or feelings, making small talk a much less awkward experience.

You may have seen for yourself how well many introverts can talk with strangers or acquaintances. Some can discuss topics such as current events, their jobs, or even the weather with ease.

Making the acquaintance comfortable

For example, an introvert in a particular situation may have said to an acquaintance at a party, "how are things at work?".

This question allows the acquaintance to talk about themselves. For introverts, this is a style that's likely preferred, and it makes the other person feel important. The acquaintance will feel comfortable; the introvert is comfortable, allowing the conversation to develop naturally.

Small talk may move to more generic conversation, such as of current events. And introvert can make reserved, thoughtful comments about a number of things, which will neither overwhelm the other person or dominate the conversation.

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Because introverts are motivated by their own personal mental space, it makes them sympathetic to that of others. Almost everyone can appreciate a person that has empathy or sympathy, and displaying that in a conversation is exactly what introverts are good at. 

Introverts are valued for their conversation style - even at work!

Even professionally, introverts can converse well. Because the conversation is rarely self-indulgent for the introvert, the other person always feels important and heard.

At work, this can be a valuable quality. People tend to enjoy working with introverts as they are focused, and their communication skills suggest they are thoughtful. If someone under an introvert's supervision were to come to him or her with a problem, it is likely that the introvert could put them at ease. The employee would then feel valued and the introvert will be respected.

Introverts can portray themselves well to others and can also read people fairly accurately. This combination would allow introverts to be good mediators and problem solvers. 

For introverts that cannot socialize casually with ease, developing conversation skills is likely to be a personal goal.

Introverts tend to be motivated and introspective, making personal growth an important aspect of their lives. Introverts are frequently trying to develop their skills, particularly those that concern other people.

Given the right amount of experience (good or bad), introverts will develop their conversation practices well, even if they are different from those of extroverts or more outgoing personalities. 

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